Dudes

I had some witty comments to make about my observations of and interactions with men but I'm so brain dead right now that I don't know if I can write a post that will fully live up to the one I imagined in my head.

Men are interesting- and for so many reasons. I have learned a lot about men over the past couple of years and I still have no idea what makes them tick. One thing that I have learned and that I try to keep in mind is that what they say is what they mean- they don't double talk or have hidden messages in their words like I do. Most likely, if they say it they mean it- so I should not spend all of my time trying to find the hidden meaning in statements, text messages, emails, etc- but I do sometimes. I read and re-read emails and think, "What did he really mean when he said 'I can't wait for you to come check me out' or 'Miss you!'?". Yeah- I do that. And it drives me crazy, but I can't fathom how a person can say something and actually mean what they say. I wonder if I ever do that.

Another interesting thing about men is that some of them don't seem to like to "compete" to win the heart of a woman- not Gladiator style, but just in general, just trying to "convince" her that he's the one she wants. Am I saying that I want or need this? No. But I assumed that it happened- maybe I've been listening to too much R&B lately...

Anyway, so the other night I went out to a lounge to hear my friend's godbrother sing (he has the same name as "my A"- so we'll just call him "a"). So I try to get a couple of friends to go, but since I only have party pooper friends no one commits to coming out. So I arrive at the venue alone and see "a" and he proceeds to buy me a drink, then I perch and wait for the show. Then I see a guy I talked to back in September (D) walk in with his roommate (I had invited him but wasn't sure he was coming)- so they sit next to me. After the show, "a" comes up to me and is acting all weird- kinda distant (not that I wanted him to be close, but still...) and he mumbles something about him singing more next week, and then he walks away. I should mention that earlier, during the show, D's like, "So how do you know this guy?" and I explain that I know him through a friend. So at the end of the show the band is still playing and I file out with my boys- D, me, and the roommate- and on the way out I wave at "a" and he mouths (as he is supposed to be singing!) "Is that him?" ("my A") and I say no- just a friend. I haven't heard a peep from "a" since, which is fine and could mean nothing, but it is just noteworthy how these guys were both trying to check out my situation with the other. And the result has been that neither has reapproached. AGAIN, not that I desire either, because I have "my A", but it's just an interesting observation. So it seems that guys, in the (physical) presence of a possible other guy option for a woman, will back down. I think I've been guilty of not backing down in the presence of another woman option for a man-- but maybe that only happened in a dream...

What else...

Actually, I have to go see a client- that's enough for now...